The Wounded Child
We all have a wounded inner child which we can acknowledge and heal.
12/5/20241 min read
“The wounded child inside many males is a boy who, when he first spoke his truths, was silenced by paternal sadism, by a patriarchal world that did not want him to claim his true feelings.
The wounded child inside many females is a girl who was taught from early childhood that she must become something other than herself, deny her true feelings, in order to attract and please others.
When men and women punish each other for truth telling, we reinforce the notion that lies are better.
To be loving we willingly hear the other’s truth, and most important, we affirm the value of truth telling.
Lies may make people feel better, but they do not help them to know love.”
- bell hooks
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It is easy to deny our emotions. To hide. To fit in. To avoid criticism and hurt. We do not avoid suffering in this case.
We may find we emotionally sit somewhere in the middle. The safe zone. Not too happy, joyful or excited and not feeling as though we can express our anger, sorrow or grief. We become numb. Safe. But not alive.
To feel fully alive we must allow ourselves to healthily express all emotions. To trust ourselves. To love ourselves.
No doubt a challenge, but being alive and our authentic self is more rewarding than feeling emotionally safe. That safety and certainty will come as we express ourselves and find the people in our lives that truly want us to be who we are.